Women as Life Partners 

Carolyn Ashe Stokes
2006
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Can we go inward to reflect on the role women play in our world? Equal treatment begins in our educational hierarchy. Our national traditional "Divide and Conquer" mindset causes inequality. Younger generations seem to adapt to this modality without question.

Our centuries old male dominated environment causes humans to compete and win so as to be considered superior. We have experienced how this applies to nonwhite persons.   But have you ever considered how this is now being applied to women as they compete against each other? Those who choose to enter the money scene are being compared to those who choose to nurture and develop the family scene--a 24 hour job responsibility--without pay!  Some are overwhelmed with both jobs. The success of family management ability and knowledge is measured by how our children become successes or disasters. But who teaches families?

Most mothers favor collaboration as a healthy process. Women around our world are being beaten or killed for stepping out of their subjugated roles. Still, today, women's groups support each other internationally, without fanfare. Can this natural proclivity be used more widely in today's world?

An evolutionary perspective is emerging which agrees that mothers create and nurture life in their wombs and homes, forming a lifetime attachment. Fathers provide valuable benefits for their co-created progeny. A new broader perspective on the family process is the Partnership.  This escapes the stereotyped boxes that we are outgrowing at a fast rate. With more choices, what works for one situation, one family, one group, one culture, one nation, depends on what choices become acceptable to that union. This is human progress. Our great need for understanding and negotiating differences is part of this evolutionary hologramatie process.

Our academic system, as wonderful as it is, is unilateral in its focus on mental and economic progress, to the exclusion of emotional and humanistic progress. Most of our leaders reflect this uniform point of view. We need a greater balance.

Perhaps when we can see and develop the economic value needed by our maternal family life process, then we can see the emotional value needed by our paternal family life process. Can we find a new balance? Our youth are reflecting this crisis. Family Management Education is a valuable addition to our education processes and desperately needs our attention.

This is my gut feeling and my heart's desire

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